A Summer State of Mind

I often ask my students, as Mary Oliver asks us in the poem below: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” As I plan for a month in the country, I ask myself this same question.

This is my prayer for today, for my life, and especially for the month of August.

I vow to be idle and blessed, to pay attention, to be a girl, to be grateful for this special gift of time, to do nothing, to just be.

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Mary Oliver

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

(from New and Selected Poems, 1992)

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Buddha on Infidelity

Sexual misconduct creates suffering. Period. Whether we are the ones engaging in it or are the victims of it, everyone involved suffers. Marriage & intimacy_Nancy OHara_July-14To understand just how corrosive and harmful this is to forming a true partnership and how it interferes with an intimate connection to another person, we only have to look at our own community and perhaps our own family and friends. Who doesn’t know someone who has been affected by the misuse and abuse of sex? 2,600 years ago, Buddha, a human being just like you and me, knew how destructive such behavior could be: it is number one on his list of five hindrances and number three on his list of ten precepts. The good news is that he also prescribed a way out of our suffering and offered us a clear path to liberation from our suffering and from our own misbehaviors.

The first of the five hindrances that Buddha warned us about is lustful desires. The first of the three poisons is greed. And the first of the four noble truths of Buddhism is Dukkha, which is often translated as suffering. In The Dhammapada, a concise collection of Buddha’s teachings, he said: “Lust and greed ruin the mind as weeds ruin fields.” This is an image that we can all relate to and have probably at one time or another experienced for ourselves.

So, if we have been a victim or a perpetrator of infidelity, how can Buddhism help us today in the twenty-first century to understand, cope, and deal with it? How can we move from ill-will, hatred or anger (the second hindrance) toward our self or our partner, to healing and forgiveness? … Read more

*This article first appeared in the July 2014 issue of Complete Wellbeing magazine.

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Seppo’s Potato Salad

It’s summertime, which in my house means lots of salads with farm fresh vegetables, corn on the cob and veggie burgers. Or salmon on the grill when we’re in the country.

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And what is a real summer meal without good old-fashioned potato salad? Here’s a version that I haven’t made in a while, but definitely will in August when we’re vacationing in Vermont. I can almost taste it now!

Seppo’s Potato Salad Recipe

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Only 2 Weeks Left!

KILLING SACRED

Killing Sacred, the second installment in the Alex Sullivan mystery series, is set to be released in two weeks time!

If you haven’t already downloaded the chapter reveal, check it out here!

Pre-order Killing Sacred for a special price of $1.99 from iBooks or Barnes & Noble  before it goes on sale for the regular price of $4.99. This is the second book in the Alex Sullivan Zen Mystery series.

 

Last, but not least, if you missed the first book in the series, One Hand Killing, now’s your chance to catch up for free! For a limited time, download One Hand Killing from AmazoniBooksBarnes & Noble, or Kobo Books.

 

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Who Are We Without Our Dreams?

There are so many things in my life that I never would have experienced or accomplished without first having the dream. To name just a few: writing books; living alone in Paris for a summer; becoming a life coach and working for myself; creating a loving, lasting, intimate relationship; cycling through Ireland and Mallorca.

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My husband, Michael, just satisfied a lifelong dream of his and as his partner I am so proud and in awe of what he did. Here’s a note from him about this and some cool pictures to look at. At 65, he was the oldest guy out there, but not the last one up every mountain!

Michael: Last month I fulfilled a life long dream of cycling some of the iconic mountain passes of the Tour de France. In fact, it was so dreamlike that after getting off the plane in Geneva and traveling up into the snow capped Alps of Switzerland and France, it took nearly a week for the fact that I was actually there to sink in and become real.

I have done some outrageously satisfying adventures in my life that started out as seemingly insurmountable and intimidating challenges, but this trip ranks high as an epic undertaking of an unimaginable accomplishment and completion.

The sheer beauty of the place, and the beauty of the effort was life changing. I am really grateful to Nancy, who also exercised enormous endurance in supporting me while I followed through on this challenge!

Click here to see more photos of Michael’s trip

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Mindful Quotes for July

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Don’t pretend you’re
Not lost.
Just ask where you are:
It’s a real shortcut.
Japanese Folk Zen Saying

“We ought to listen to music or sit and practice breathing at the beginning of every meeting or discussion.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

“Zen is not some kind of excitement, but concentration on our usual everyday routine.”
Shunryu Suzuki

Live in this moment.
The starry sky is just there—
Where else can you be?
Nancy O’Hara

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Killing Sacred Chapter Reveal!

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With Killing Sacred’s release less than one month away, I have an additional treat for all current (and new!) fans: I’m revealing the fourth chapter in this newest book, which is available for pre-order now!

Here’s the setup:

Desperate to put some distance between herself and New York City and to recover from a freak bicycle crash, NYPD Detective Alex Sullivan flees to Albuquerque. As soon as the wheels of her plane touch down, the bodies begin to drop.

Far from the sanctuary she was seeking, Alex finds herself isolated in a hot, desolate landscape surrounded by scorpions, rattlers and all things venomous. Under the ferocious sun of New Mexico’s endless deserts, Alex is tested by the hellfire of a sinister cult and her head injury makes chasing bad guys a high-risk gamble. How in the world will she survive the heat?

And don’t forget to get a FREE copy now of the first book in the series, One Hand Killing, also for a limited time.

Download Killing Sacred’s Chapter 4 and Enjoy!

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Almost Ready!

I got my box of books today to send out to the forty Goodreads Giveaway winners. The writing of them seems like a distant memory. And now I know once again: there’s more to writing than just writing!Box of Books

It’s hard to believe I had the idea for this series so long ago and now there are two. Alex, the main character—NYPD Detective and erstwhile Zen student—keeps nagging at me to write the third one. I think she wants to stay in New York City this time. And Uncle Charlie has been whispering sweet nothings as well. I can’t decide if I should kill him off or give him his own book.

The next five weeks, leading up to the release of book #2, Killing Sacred, will be full of promotional surprises: freebies, sneak peaks, special prices…

I’ve never sent a child off to college, but I imagine it might feel something like what I’m feeling now. One good thing: if I get lonely once Killing Sacred is on its way to readers, I’ll always be able to create another book. And since my writing group started up again this month, I’ll get started soon as these books are in the mail…

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Mindful Quotes for June

“All of man’s woes derive from the fact that he cannot sit quietly in a room alone.”AbtLNw1207JFManRE3W4pkP72LKEPMMhRHeMzq2mJzI
Blaise Pascal

 

“As long as you are conscious of yourself, you can never concentrate on anything.”
Buddha (by way of Walpola Rahula)

 

“Practice not-doing, and everything will fall into place.”
Lao-tzu

 

“Real strength is not in power, money, or weapons, but in deep, inner peace.”
Thich Nhat Hahn

 

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